What is the best (and I guess, most Godly) way to let someone know that as great as you think they are, you’re not that interested in them? You know, without hurting their feelings? - Anonymous
This is a great question! Romans 12:10b says to “Honor one another above yourselves.” I think the best way to do this in this situation is to just be completely honest with them, by saying “no” from the beginning. I also think you should affirm their good qualities so that they aren’t down on themselves.
This can be a tricky situation, especially if it is a good friend. Once you know they like you, even things you once did only as a friend can now be misinterpreted as romantic interest. This may sound funny, but I think one of the WORST things you could do is remain good friends simply because it can end up as the equivalent of leading them on, even if that is not your intent. Once you know someone likes you, and you know the feeling is not mutual, you should honor them by keeping a distance so that there is a clear action backing up your “No”. Otherwise you may give someone false hope that they have a chance with you when they don’t. Please don’t do this! It might be painful for them at the time, especially if they are a good friend, but in the end both God and your friend are honored.
